Grieving the loss of my cat

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Grieving the loss of my cat

Post by kurtaaron on Wed Dec 04, 2013 12:35 pm

Hello,

It has now been 2 weeks since I put my cat Tristan to sleep. It was very hard. He was my friend Debie's cat who died 3 years ago from MS complications. Tristan had a pretty severe eye and nose infection that wouldn't go away after countless vet appointments. I had him for about 3 and a half years. He was a long-haired white cat with big beautiful blue eyes. I tried to post his picture but it was too big to upload here. He was getting senile and was getting older (around 12 or 13) and for the last 6 months he was pooping outside his litter box. He wasn't deathly ill but the infection was not going away. He would sneeze violently and bile was going everywhere. He had constant pink eye that I addressed everyday. I feel a little guilty sometimes because I got mad at him a few times when he would wake me almost everyday with loud moaning from about 4 am till I got up. Most nights I could not fall back asleep before I had to get up for work. With the illness, the litter problems and the moaning combined it was becoming too much for me to handle. Maybe I should have given him longer I don't know. I think I did the right thing but I have mixed emotions.

I had debated doing this for about 3 months and a few weeks ago I finally made the decision that I had to do it and found the strength to do it 2 weeks ago today (12/4/2013.) I did it before work which was hard because I didn't get to stay with him for long after the procedure. They gave him a sedative beforehand and I did get to spend the last few minutes of his life petting him and telling him goodbye and that I loved him. He went very peacefully. I decided to have him cremated with other pets from the same veterinary clinic.

I loved him so much and treated him with extra care. He was a great snuggler and a wonderful companion. The fact that he was originally my friend's cat who died 3 years ago has also been very difficult to cope with. I miss my friend and now Tristan so much. My apartment is not the same without Tristan. I'm single and live a lone and it has been very hard. I have cried so much these past 2 weeks.

Anyway I juts wanted to vent these facts and feelings and am very glad for this website and forum. God bless you all who have lost pets here.

Sincerely,

Kurt from NH

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Re: Grieving the loss of my cat

Post by alex25 on Sat Dec 07, 2013 8:54 am

I am so sorry for your loss and I give you praise for having the strength to do what you did. And what a wonderful gift for Debie, she and Tristan can be together again. I still cry and it has been since November 14 when I lost my dog, Alex. I miss him so much. But I knew, just like you did, they were not well and keeping them alive was more for ourselves than it was for them. It doesn't make it easy for us, and again, sorry for both of your losses, Debie and Tristan, just know you gave them both a great gift.

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Re: Grieving the loss of my cat

Post by kurtaaron on Sat Dec 07, 2013 11:19 am

Thanks for your response. It helps to hear from others who understand what it's like losing a pet. I'm sorry you had to go through it with your beloved dog. I believe we both did the right thing and now we have to go through the grieving process which can take some time. Our pets are family and when we lose one we lose a part of ourselves. I cried hard yesterday and it's almost been 3 weeks. We gotta just hang in there and know they are at peace and we will see them again on the otherside....God bless you and thanks for responding!

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Re: Grieving the loss of my cat

Post by jackiejones on Wed Jan 08, 2014 10:56 am

I am so sorry for the loss of your cat Tristan. Its not easy carrying on normal life when your heart is broken. Thank you so much for your post about Beano, it really means a lot. I too got a bit irritable with Beano a couple of times in his last week, he was being very clingy which he was probably trying to tell me he wasn't his normal self but I just had a few things to do before Christmas and told him to go to bed. I'm trying not to feel bad as that's what families do, we all have our moments and we have a lot more love times than anything else. Hold on to the happy times you shared God bless

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Re: Grieving the loss of my cat

Post by kurtaaron on Wed Jan 08, 2014 6:32 pm

Thanks for the reply Jackie! It means a lot when 2 people can comfort each other when we lose our beloved pets. It's thicker than blood I swear. I've never cried so hard and for so long regarding losing Tristan and I'm sure you've had your share too, especially with Beano....it just sucks but when we can express our emotions and talk about it, we heal and start to accept our new reality without them. I have a sneaky suspicion that they are in a most beautiful place, having fun and waiting for us;
somewhere so wonderful we can not even imagine....

Hang tough,

Kurt

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